Sunday, December 11, 2016

Neziner Shul in Philadelphia Formed By Hasidim from Nezhin in Chernigov Province.



I decided to write a post about the Neziner Shul in Philly at the turn of the Century. I do this because while researching it I've met many people online who were trying to find pictures and hard information about this Synagogue that had been a part of their ancestor's lives but no longer exists. Their ancestors came from the same region as mine and there was a reference here or there about it's existence. It's somewhat unique in that it's early members came mostly from the same town of Nezhin in the Province of Chernigov. It's also unique as many were from families who were followers of Chabad Chasidim who upon arriving in America chose to start a Shul to pray according to Nusach Ari otherwise known as Arizal's Prayer Liturgy. The link below explains what this means far better than I can. What I can explain is that even in the New World people tried to hold onto things meaningful to them, especially on a spiritual level. Judaism is a communal religion in many ways. When someone loses a loved one they need to say Kaddish with a Minyon, a set number of people in this case 10 men.  While a person can pray privately anywhere, he needs others to perform certain prayers and customs. To paraphrase a book ... ittakes a village and a village was formed in Philadelphia by people from Nezhin at the turn of the Century while starting over in the New World of America.

http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/2089176/jewish/The-Chassidic-Prayerbook.htm

People often prefer their stuffed cabbage the way their Mother made it yet some mothers add raisins and others do not. People made Gefilte Fish once upon a time, now days people in Brooklyn buy sushi at the Kosher Bakery for Friday Night dinner. Styles and menu change over time and Shabbos goes on without losing a beat. Food is one thing but the way a person prays is not as easily changed as trying a sushi for the first time on a dare. Over time some people remained strong in their manner of faith and other's lost their traditions one tradition at a time as they moved deeper into the American lifestyle.

In Tampa my Great Grandparents were involved in a court case regarding the original synagogue in Tampa as they refused to change to what was called "Minhag American" that included prayers in English and other practices they didn't wish to adopt. Others who had come before them, mostly from Germany, had bit by bit changed over to the newer customs and yearned for a more Americanized service. The 6th District Court of Appeals in Florida ruled in favor of the American way of doing things and the Orthodox Jews formed another Shul named Rodeph Shalom that remained for many years more traditional synagogue in town. It still exists today as a Conservative Synagogue in the Tampa Bay area.


This drama was playing out across America both in the Northern Industrialized Cities and in small towns in the South such as Tampa, Florida. New immigrants had to define who they would be in America. Another name for the Neziner Shul in Philadelphia was Ahavas Achim Anshei Nusach Ha-Ari – Brotherly Love Men of Nezhin. It served a purpose both on a spiritual level as well as a social level and members could help newcomers find a job, a place to live and maybe a nice girl to marry.


http://www.myshliach.com/media/pdf/626/eUpL6261841.pdf


A picture of the 6th Chabad Rebbe becoming an American Citizen.
Video of the event is in the link below.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qgcDbDnto1k

When the previous Chabad Rebbe Yosef Yitzchok Schneerson came to America in the 1940s he made the statement that America was not different. He dedicated his life to rebuilding "Jewish Life" and keeping it alive in America. There was the feeling in those Post World War 2 days that in America things were different and you had to change to survive in the world. To work on Saturday or not was the same question that the Jews in Tampa and Key West had to make years before. People had done that for years as they moved to the "New World" but after the horrors of the Holocaust the question became more compelling. This was really nothing new as Jews changed their names in Manchester, in Ireland and South Africa. Some did and some did not. Over time many changed, many did not.

Elie Wisel addressed those fears, concerns and shared his thoughts in his many of his books. http://crownheights.info/general/2897/elie-wiesel-on-his-beliefs/ Even the question of whether to bother getting married was a concern for Elie Wiesel after things he witnessed in the Holocaust. The story of his questioning the purpose of getting married in the world then is in the link below.
http://www.collive.com/show_news.rtx?id=41287


In truth there is often a moment in our lives when we question who we are and who we want to be. What is unique about the Neziner Shul is that they really didn't question it when they came over, they simply went about doing what they had done back in Nezhin, in the Chernigov Province in the Ukraine. They formed a Shul where they could pray in accordance with their traditions.

A demographic study was done on the Nezhiner Synagogue that is interesting. It's available through JSTOR. It's a shame no one has done a demographic study to see a century later how many of the descendants of those early members are still Orthodox, Conservative or who have assimilated or perhaps made Aliyah to Israel? How many of them have made their way back to Chabad where their roots began before coming to America?

http://www.jstor.org/stable/20101199?seq=1#page_scan_tab_contents


A snippet is below.


After WW2 many Jews were confronted by the reality of the Holocaust and many questioned their faith in God and sometimes even if it was worth being Jewish. I have a friend in Miami who became President of one of the largest Synagogues on Miami Beach. He was raised in Queens with the name Christopher not knowing he was Jewish. Life was good. He went to public school and watched the Yankees play and he didn't think much on the Holocaust. When he was older he found out a distant relative had died. Imagine his shock when he discovered his Grandfather was Jewish. It seems that his parents felt they could best protect him by moving to the suburbs of Queens and pretending to be Christians who didn't bother going to Church. After the horrors of the Holocaust and the pogroms before that many Jews pondered passing into American society with American names, clothes and jettisoning their traditions. Chris threw himself into his newly found Jewish roots and dedicates many hours to his new found Synagogue. Chris, came to the same conclusion as the 6th Chabad Rebbe that America is no different.

Secretary of State John Kerry found out a while back that his Great Grandparents had simply crossed over into Switzerland where no one knew them and started over with a new name and a new religion. He wasn't the first one to find out he had Jewish Roots. Many Cubans originally were Anusim who ran away from Spain and took their chances on a small, primitive island in the Caribbean than in Spain and the Inquisition. They pretended to be Catholics who didn't go to Church much and kept fig trees in their back yards as a secret sign to others neighbors who tended fig trees and had hidden Jewish roots. I have more than one friend from Cuba who found out the family came from Jewish Roots when the Grandfather died and the oldest living son was given the box hidden in the closet with an ancestors prayer shawl from Spain. It seems Madeline Albright also discovered Jewish roots in her family tree. Ironically, many Scottish, Irish and German Americans who have taken DNA tests have found out they also have European Jewish Roots. Go figure the Melting Pot of America strikes again!

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/27/madeleine-albright-prague-winter_n_1460500.html

http://www.haaretz.com/jewish/features/when-kerry-was-kohn-the-jewish-roots-of-john-kerry.premium-1.489209

The Nezhin Shul in Philadelphia was formed at the turn of the Century. It was a statement of faith and belief in the ways of their ancestors. It provided a familiar, spiritual safe space in the larger new world of life in Philadelphia. They held social functions, they had holiday programs, they married and buried people. Many couples met there as my Grandparents did and then they moved away to where ever Jews moved in those days in search of making money and raising their families. Organizations to help families and friends in Nezhin were formed, money was sometimes sent overseas. Over time the neighborhood changed, times changed, people moved away.  In my case my Grandpa Ben ended up in Miami, Florida.

The end game for the Nezhiner Shul is that it was turned into a Condo. How totally American is that? The Nezhiner Court Condos sits just a bit away from the Street with it's original courtyard.


I wonder if someone is running an Air B&B there...
Looks cute.

http://www.ocfrealty.com/naked-philly/queen-village/delorean-time-machine-neziner-court-condos

Ironically my friend Chris in Miami Beach drives a Delorean.

Perhaps some Shul member ended up in Cincinnatti.
It seems the Stained Glass windows did.



http://www.cincinnatijudaicafund.com/index.php/Detail/objects/2518

Again some links below for people who wish to do more research.

For anyone doing family research Good Luck.
It's not easy.
Grandpa Ben came to America as Berel, his given name was Ber.
My Aunt told me her father's name was really Dov Ber but he went by Berel.
So Ber Ben Yonah Chitrick Ha Levi became Ben Rick.
His mother was Sarah Beila Rosen as I said in a previous post.
She was born in Nezhin to Gavriel and Libby Rosen.

A picture of him and my grandmother is below.


Today the 11th of Kislev was his Yarzeit.
This article is in his memory.
And my Great Grandmother who sent him to America...
... to her relatives who had made the trip before him.

My Hebrew name is Bracha Bas Chana.
My mother Chana became a Ba'al Teshuvah in the 1960s.
That means she returned to Orthodoxy and became Chabad again.
That's another story for another day.
In Miami she rediscovered the way her ancestors lived in Europe.
As the dove found land after the flood.
My mother found her way back over time.
And my children, her grandchildren, pray Nusach Ari.
My brother and I at my grandson's Bar Mitzvah in Crown Heights.
.... at the Jewish Children's Museum.


Bentching after the meal.
AKA
Saying "Grace After Meals" 


http://www.jcm.museum/
If you are in Brooklyn it's worth the trip.

Thanks for reading.
Good luck finding your Jewish Roots!

http://www.rootsweb.ancestry.com/~ukrchern/chernigov/geography/townsNezhin.htm

http://www.ourfamilystory.net/Nezhin.html

http://www.ourfamilystory.net/Philadelphia.html














My Grandfather Benjamin Rick AKA Berel Chitrik From Chernigov & Nezhin to Florida. My Grandfather and the Love of His Life Mary (Miriam Leah) Abrams of Tampa.




I haven't written in a while. I've been meaning to but you know that old song about the best intentions so I'm not going to sing it for you.

We light "Yarzeit Candles" on the anniversary (Yarzeit) of the death. My brother went off to Disney with his girlfriend for the weekend, but before going reminded me it was "Grandpa Ben's Yarzeit" and asked me to light a candle for him. Good thing I wouldn't have remembered. He gets a notice each year from Young Israel or rather my sister-in-law did before she died last year. Seems he gets them now so good to know.

"Grandpa Ben" is a term I heard growing up so often that at times I felt the presence of his ghost lurking around our home. If he lurked anywhere it would be there as he built the house we lived in growing up and his wife my Grandma Mary and his daughter Ada Rappaport lived there for decades. He died way before I was born, before my mother married my father. He was a nebulous sort of figure that was mentioned often yet really gave me no feel for who he was in life.

It's easy to say Ben was a hard worker, possibly too hard a worker as he died young in his mid 50s of a heart attack. Or possibly he would have had the heart problem no matter how hard he worked as his brother died on the young side and his father died the year before Ben came to America. Ben's mother Sarah lived a good life as did her daughter Esther, but Sarah came to America as a window in her early 50s. Add in each relative spelled it a little differently with variations Chitrik, Khitrik or Hitrik on various forms and an occasional Chitzik which might be a mistake or might be a clue to more information. As always time will tell.

What can I tell you? It's easy to say Ben started with a truck but that's the end of his story not the beginning of his real story. He was a carpenter by trade and moved back and forth with Mary from Philly to Baltimore in search of work. Grandma didn't like Baltimore it was dark, damp and cold. Baltimore was gray and people were always "washing their stoops" something that seemed as foreign to her coming from Tampa as her Southern accent seemed to Ben's family. By the time my mother was born in 1926 they have moved to Atlantic City where Ben worked as a carpenter in construction and Grandma Mary managed a store on the Boardwalk.  The store had an ice cream counter and sold cigars, her brother's cigars and she was near the ocean again even if it was cold. Mary dreamed of Florida and waxed poetic to Ben on how beautiful it was however seeing how Ben came from Chernigov ....Atlantic City probably seemed good enough. Also his brother was nearby in Philly as was his mother and Grandma had family in Philly so Atlantic City was where they lived for many years.



In 1935 at the height of the depression a friend of his asked Ben to drive to Miami Beach with him to work on a job. It was a long drive in those days and better driven with another driver. South Beach was in the middle of a small building boom at the height of the depression when jobs up north were scarce and paid not as well nor were they as plentiful.  It was a long drive and upon arriving he called up my Grandmother on the phone and begged her forgiveness saying "Mary you were right it's beautiful here" and he told her there was plenty of work and that were going to move to Miami. Grandma, according to my mother, was excited dancing around the house that they were going to Florida, she was going "home" soon. Grandpa worked on the dome of a small Synagogue that was being built on Washington Avenue, made money, took on more jobs and sent for Mary, Ada and my mother Annette to come down on the train. The little reddish dome on the building on the corner was the dome my Grandfather Ben worked on upon arriving in Miami. My mother donated a picture she had of him working on the dome to the Jewish Historical Museum Mosaic in Miami.


It would be easy to say Ben's legacy started with a truck.
The first truck he bought for his new construction business in Miami.
Ben Rick Construction



Mary was home with palm trees and year round flowers near an ocean that was warm and skies were blue. Winter and the odd ways of "up North" were in the rear view mirror. Grandpa bought a truck, pained his name on it and began a construction company. That area that looks like it's out in the woods is basically what we call today the Road Section near downtown Miami. However, in the 1930s there were still jack rabbits a plenty jumping around in people's front yards. Note Grandma Mary had a yard again and she had space to garden the way she learned people do in Tampa. She was in heaven and Grandma was not a wanting person. She was happy to sit home, cook in the kitchen, take the dog for a walk and watch plant flowers in a garden all year round. No coats, no sweaters just sandals and summer all year round. You could walk or ride a bike down to Biscayne Bay at the end of their street and the breeze always blew through the windows being that close to the Bay.


That's Ben while on the construction of their home.
That's the house almost finished.


Ben built homes all over Miami.
He'd buy a big lot, build 3 homes, sell them.
He'd buy another lot, build 3 homes, sell them.
Eventually he built subdivisions in the 1940s.
Large projects with 300 homes over several blocks.
He was supposed to start work on Key Biscayne but he died.
He worked with Norman Giller's father as well as the Mackle Brothers.

The picture at the top of the blog was found in my mother's things.
It was taken in the 1940s but I'm not sure where.
A nearby man is wearing a Guyabero shirt. Perhaps they were in Havana.
It doesn't look like any place in Miami I've seen before.
Hard to say. I didn't have it when Grandma was alive to ask...


Grandma loved wearing ribbons and bows in her hair.


No more cold winters for Grandma.
Sadly, Ben died young and she never remarried.

But that's just the basic facts.
The real story is more interesting.
It shows the twists and turns in people's lives.
How Jews of that generation often met far from their homes.
The story below is how Mary, a Southern Belle, met Ben.
Ben was an immigrant, running away from Pogroms in Russia.
He built a new life in Miami eventually as well as many homes along the way.

The good thing about doing genealogy whether on Ancestry or any website you use is that people who were just names really come to life. And the questions in your head that made no sense find answers sometimes. And sometimes they lead to more questions so that every answer unlocks the door to another mystery.

So before seeing the house my grandfather built, let's fully understand the picture above. My Grandmother was a Southern Belle raised in Tampa who visited Quincy Florida often as her older sister Annie Abrams Falk lived there. The family owned tobacco plantations or rather farms, but Grandma Mary called them plantations at the Turn of the Century in North Florida. She called it "shade tobacco" and she said tobacco more like "tabacka" with a Southern accent. They sold the cigars out of the Tampa Bay Hotel as well as many resort locations and eventually out of a store on the Boardwalk in Atlantic City she managed after she married Ben.

Understand this was Grandma Mary's world. She was raised in Florida, yet had relatives "Up in Philly" and for some reason she was born at a 22 room farmhouse/hotel her family owned in Malaga NJ. Most of her life was lived Down South. The pretty yellow house below was where her brother Jake lived and where she "taught music" and had a "music room" for her piano study.


The house Grandma Mary's family owned in Tampa.


A random typical house in Quincy, Florida


A field worker picking tobacco. 
Note the map below shows how close Quincy is to the Georgia border. 
Really the Florida/Georgia Line you could say ;)


Quincy near the Georgia Boarder. 

Grandma Mary went "up north" to stay by her "sister Jenny" who lived "up in Philly" after her mother died. Grandma was very sad, her mother died young and Mary was just a girl she said. Grandma it seems was not as young as I thought she was but young is relative and a sliding scale it seems in my family with the women. She told us she was born in 1900 and her mother died in 1915 so she would have been fifteen. I say "would have been" because I found out online she may have been born in 1898. That made sense as she would often say "she wasn't born in the 1890s" she was born in this century very defensively. No Grandma it seems was not born in the 1900s. Her family would go "up north" to their property in New Jersey in the hot summers of Florida or when there was malaria in Key West (which was often) and she is listed as being a baby in the newly found 1895 census for the State of New Jersey. They were living in Key West in the 1880s, 1890s and then Tampa after the turn of the Century officially. Apparently they spent much time going back and forth for various reasons. They were listed in a census in 1895 in New Jersey shown below.


This census was a real find for many reasons. It confirms my mother's suspicion that her Grandma Ida Abrams (Chaya Etel bas Joseph in Hebrew) was originally married to a Seidenberg not a Seiden and the name was shortened when they came to America. My mother came up with that theory while visiting Key West as the family was in the tobacco business and the Seidenbergs were also in the tobacco business she thought there might be a relationship beyond happenstance. I always thought she was reaching a bit on that one but this census shows Jacob Seiden listed as Jacob Seidenberg so it seems Mother was right after all.  Jake's father died in "Russia" when he was a baby and his mother Ida remarried Wolfe Abrams. For many years Jake went by Jacob Abrams but as he got older he went by Jake Seiden. Jenny was the 2nd daughter, Maurice's Hebrew middle name was Pinchas and I was pretty sure I was told that his English name was Phillp. Annie is in the right order as is Mary the "baby" who was the youngest. It's definitely her so she was born more likely in 1894 as another census in 1900 in Philly shows her existing prior to 1900. I almost threw that out as a set of cousins but both the order and names of the children is exact and well... people lie... even Grandma Mary. Note the ages for the older three children are correct but both Annie and Mary were alive a good five years before they admitted to later in life. Happens...


In 1900 they are listed with a family named Rabowetz.
Most likely a poor spelling of Rabinowitz.
Note the names of the children in both families are almost the same.
The names were given in the same order suggesting they could be cousins.

After Ida passed away Mary was sent to her sister Annie in Quincy, lived by Jake's fiance in New Orleans and finally sent up to her sister Jennie Polakoff in Philly. Jennie told Mary she needed a job as she was not in Tampa anymore and she got somehow got a job at Wannamaker's as a model modeling new clothes and high button boots. Apparently there's a market place for old post cards that perhaps I should make a note to go through. The model below looks a bit like Grandma when young, but most likely not. But you get the idea. She'd walk around in stylish clothes and when people complimented her she'd show them where to buy...the high button boots or fancy new coat. Grandma was very proud she had worked modeling clothes in a beautiful, large department store.


Advertisements in the paper.
This is a postcard sold online of a Wannamaker Model.


Wannamaker in all it's glory.
http://wanamakerbuilding.com/
Reminds me a bit of Saks in Manhattan. 


I saw pictures of Grandma when in her teens.
She was playing piano for the Governor of Florida.
She was dressed in an old ruffled, white, long dress.
She had her hair done in long curls in the Southern Style.
She wore a cameo on a piece of velvet around her neck.
She told me the velvet was purple. 
She looked like Brooke Shields in ways.
Dark eyebrows, big eyes, very pretty in her way.
Obviously Wannamaker's thought so as they hired her as a model.

Suddenly enter Ben who was from Russia and spoke very little English.
They both spoke Yiddish but with vastly different accents.
Ben's mother sent him to America after his father died.
Another brother had come before him and changed the name to Rick.
So Behr "Beryl" Chitrik became Ben Rick in America.

Ben met Mary at a "shul get together" for the "young people" according to Grandma Mary. I'd push her for details and she never had many. She said when she would go to the Youth Group at the Temple everyone would make fun of her accent (Southern) and call her a "shikse" inferring she wasn't really Jewish. This upset her as she was raised in a kosher home where they made Shabbos and her mother covered her hair even in Key West in the 1880s. She told me she'd go and then come home crying because people were so mean to her. She was as Jewish as anyone, she could even speak Yiddish but her Southern Yiddish accent was a bit out of place among newcomers from "the Old Country" and then she met Ben....

Ben was obviously smitten with her and she with him. She told me he had the bluest eyes she ever saw besides her father Wolfe and he was a gentleman and they got married. I'm sure blue eyes have sold many a girl or guy on their partner when they were young but there was a big gap in backgrounds culturally. Ben was from Chernigov in the Ukraine that was listed as Russia on his papers. That was all I was ever told. Grandpa Ben was from Chernigov. Ben liked cucumber salads made with sour cream and I believe he drank tea with a sugar cube between his teeth. His mother Sarah Beila Rosen "Rick" came over from Russia with the family samovar and she taught Grandma how to cook Russian style kosher food. Again, Grandma was a bit annoyed as she knew how to cook kosher but Ben's mother taught her how to make pickled peppers for Ben and what she referred to as Russian food.


The red dot above is where Grandpa Ben came from in Chernigov.
His mother and probably his father came from Nezhin.
Chernigov is a whole different world than Tampa, Florida.
I have not yet found much information on Ben's paternal family.
There is a Chitrik family in Chabad I know but Ben was a Levi.
The other Chitrik family is not so it seems no relation...

http://jewua.org/chernigov/


The pictures show a place with a very cold winter.
Pogroms that forced Jews from place to place.
The picture below shows someone in 1909.
Pinkas Karlinsky.
If you remember Mary's brother Morris was also Pinchas... 


Ben came from a different world in 1914.

It always seemed vague and the story of his life was just bits and pieces pieces of a puzzle. My mother usually cried when I asked about him so I didn't ask much. Why did he go to Philly? Okay, his brother lived there. Why did his younger brother go before him? Why did his younger sister Esther come over much later? And then there was my mother's insistence that she thought his family was originally Chabad from the beginning days of her first becoming involved with Chabad. I thought that might be a bit of wishful thinking on her part. But when she studied with Chabad Lubavitch "how to make Passover" for the first time all of the Chabad customs from the Seder were the customs her father had compared to my father who followed his father's Hungarian traditions. 

The truth is Mother was right in that what people use for various parts of the Passover Meal are very in line with where they came from and their backgrounds. I'm not talking about the food served as much as the foods used in the Seder as well as customs in the service.  For example rather than waiting for Elijah the Prophet to come and drink the wine Chabad has a custom of going to the door to greet him. She said her father would tell her "all for Torah" when trying to make sure she didn't veer too far from the side of the Jewish world growing up. According to my Aunt he was Orthodox but he didn't believe in going to extremes and the middle road was the safer route. Really it didn't explain much. Just bits and pieces of a puzzle. A Grandfather I never really knew personally.

Knowing what I know now from studying genealogy and doing more research on his mother Sarah Beila it seems Mother knew best. Go figure...  If you look up close at Chernigov on the map below you will see the nearness of the town Nizhyn to the Northeast. It seems Sarah Beila was born in Nizhin to Gavriel and Lieba Rosen. I know that because I have her death certificate now. Great Grandmother Sarah Beila did tell my mother something about a bad pogrom where a family member was killed and they then later in Chernigov. It seems the family kept moving from town to town to Kiev possibly before coming to America. 


Understand when people said "Chernigov" it's like saying Miami.
People don't live in Miami but nearby but people say Miami.


From Jewish Gen above.


Note discussion on "Habad" which is Chabad.
Note below from Wikipedia.


And if you follow the trail of pogroms the timing on events is the proof in the pudding. Obviously for their safety they sent their sons to America after the pogrom in 1905. Mostly they sent their sons to Philadelphia where they had relatives who had moved before from Nezhin after the earlier Pogrom there in the 1880s.  Nezhin is famous for having many spellings and it seems it's cucumbers. Again, Ben loved cucumbers. It was a town on the river where Cossaks were stationed and where cucumbers were harvested for the Czar. It seems being that close to the Cossack base didn't work in their favor as Jews. After the pogrom in 1880s many relocated to Chernigov. Obviously Ben's family relocated. 

I found out that Karl's ticket was bought by his father Yona but Ben's ticket was bought by his mother Sarah Beila. It's logical to suppose that Ben's father was alive and perhaps not well and that Ben being the older brother stayed behind to help and then stayed to say Kaddish for his father in Chernigov. Sarah Beila was a widow when she bought the ticket a little over a year later for Behr whereas Karl who traveled earlier and had a father still alive. 

I researched Ben on Ancestry as well as his mother, his sister and some cousins I knew lived in Manhattan. All had variations on the name Chitrik although the spelling in English varies greatly from the way it's spelled in Hebrew.  Karl, Ben's brother, who came over earlier changed it to Rick. There are Naturalization papers where he says his name was Koppel (a variation on Jacob) and he wished to change it to Karl Rick though he went by both Carl and Karl. Some wonderful people from the a genealogical society in Philadelphia helped me find the missing link. It seems his Death Certificate was mistakenly listed as Carol Rick. In time I found out his mother was living in America whereas previously from things my mother and aunt said led me to believe she was just visiting. In the mind of a young child hearing stories you don't fully think to ask the right questions. I also found out that Karl had been in a hospital a long time in Philadelphia when Ben was nearby in Atlantic City and Ben stayed nearby until Karl died in 1935. My Grandfather Ben was the informant on Karl's death certificate. It turns out Sarah Beila, Ben's mother, lived in Philadelphia until her son passed away and then moved to live with her daughter and her husband Isadore Flansbaum in Manhattan. Sara Beila is listed as the Mother in Law on the census forms for 1940 as Sarah Bella Rick. 

Again all I knew of Ben's mother was she brought a samovar with her to America and she taught my Aunt Ada (her granddaughter) that you cook for Shabbos first and then you clean the house so you go into Shabbos with a clean house. My Aunt would add that if you did it the other way around something could come up and you'd have a clean house but no food for Shabbos. I'm not sure if she was told that or that was her reasoning but it makes sense. She also taught her to buy onions where the skins were tight on the onion showing it was fresh. Every time my Aunt Ada spoke on her Bubby Sarah, her father Ben's mother, she reiterated how clean and beautiful she was in her memories. 


The manifest from 1922 showing Sarah Beila and her daughter Esther going to Karl Rick in Philadelphia. Why 1922? Well, it was after World War 1 when it was safe to travel again. Other records show there were more children in Russia and perhaps she waited for them to get married. Hard to say but logically WW1 was over and she and her daughter came to America. Esther ended up marrying a widower with a daughter and I haven't found much other information on her. Ben's baby sister was my mother's favorite relative from that side of the family. She inspired her to go back to school and get her high school diploma and go on to college. She would visit her in Miami Beach often and my mother seemed very bonded to her. Esther is buried next to her mother in New Jersey. I visited the grave a year ago when in New York. 


Esther's naturalization papers above.
Ben's record of travel to America in 1913.
Other records showed he lived with Karl for a few years.
In 1920 he married Mary.


Other notes below on Nezhin.



The more you learn the more you understand in the world of Genealogy and Jewish History. It also helps that I know much about Chabad History and that fills in the pieces. What I wonder is where the family came from before Nezhin? 

Oddly this week is all about the Mittler Rebbe in Chabad History. His Yarzeit was the 9th of Kislev. Mittler means Middle and he is often referred to as Dov Ber the Middle Rebbe. The Cliff Notes are that he was ill and he went to visit his father's grave which was far from where he lived. On the way back he fell ill and stopped in Nezhin and passed away. He is buried there and an Ohel much like the one for Menachem Mendel Schneerson in Queens was erected where people would go and say prayers by his grave. It was then and it still is considered to be a holy site. 



The pictures above are ironically from a friend's blog.
She was a Shaliach in the Crimea.
Leah regularly took people to the Ohel in Nezhin to pray.

Along with the Ohel a Yeshiva was formed in Nezhin and there Yeshiva students from various Chabad towns who went to Nezhin to learn there in his merit. Families came to teach, tend the Ohel (grave) and just basically live there. Some years down the road another son of the Mittler Rebbe named Yisroel Noach Schneerson held court there in Nezhin. It was the families of those people living in Nezhin who sent their children to Philadelphia after the pogroms. Philadelphia already had many synogogues in the early 1900s, however those coming from Chernigov and Nezhin prayed what is called Nusach Ari not Nusach Ashkenaz as most European Jews do and therefore they started a Shul named originally the Naziner Shul in Philadelphia. It seems an early founder lost his wife and he needed to say Kaddish and people came together to start a Shul.

As I found records online for Ben's family it became clear they had two things in common. Almost all had Ben's blue eyes that were listed usually as "gray" on US government forms and secondly they had Chabad Chassidic names when they came from Russia. For example, Naomi Atrick who came over from Chernigov, had gray eyes and her original name was Nechama a name common in Chabad families. There is a Chaya there was a Moussya and numerous Ber and Dov Ber family member's names. Many assimilated, some did not get married and most are lost after name changes , marriages and travels around the country. Benjamin stayed Orthodox, attending an Orthodox Synagogue in Miami known as Beth El and my Grandmother bought kosher meat and kindled Shabbos candles. Ben's brother Karl did not it seems stay orthodox. His cousin Eli was a photographer who lived with his sister Naomi in their old age, both never married. Eli was a famous photographer I was told often taking pictures of Ziegfield Follies dancers. My mother says she saw the photos as well as a picture of Eli's father who was a twin to Ben's father Yonah. That was how my mother knew what her grandfather Yonah looked like as he was was identical to their father. On two rare trips to New York my mother went and visited them, however sadly I don't remember much of my one trip to their apartment as I was barely five. He took pictures under a secular American name and I'm not sure what that name was so it's another mystery. Another of Ben's cousins lived in the Bronx or possibly Yonkers. Their daughter Mary Attrick bears a strong resemblance to my mother. 

And while trying to trace my Grandmother's family roots before they came to America most roads trace back to the same area in Russia where Ben's family came from and that is not surprising as they most likely met at the Naziner Shul in Philadelphia or rather at a social put on by people from that Shul. Grandma's Yiddish accent may have been Southern, however the Yiddish was from White Russia vs another style of Yiddish. My mother's notes for her Mary's mother show she was from Malarussia or White Russia. There was a connection to Vilna on possibly her husband Wolfe's side but the research keeps taking me back to the same towns in the Ukraine, the same towns in Mogilev and Zhitomar and other towns where Chabad had made big inroads in the Jewish community.  Wolfe's eyes were blue just like Ben's and it's logical to believe Ben was considered a good match as some relatives knew the family. Grandma became very modern later in life however she was very clear they met at a Saturday Night social after the Jewish Sabbath was over from the Shul where they both attended.

Again in genealogy the way a person prays as well as the way they eat says much about where they came from in Europe. Even the way they drank their tea was similar in some areas and not others. 

The beauty of finding a handsome man in America with beautiful blue eyes in a city far from where both were raised so differently is really just irony as one or two generations back their families may have been from the same town, same region and possibly even distantly related. It's hard to say but when I looking up families on Ancestry DNA in search of Ben's family I keep finding relatives related in ways to my Grandmother Mary. Only time will tell.

So that's the story of how my Southern Belle Grandma Mary met and married an immigrant from Russia who barely spoke English and had to see the beauty of Florida for himself before agreeing to move down to Miami.  A man trained in carpentry and the beauty of inlaid wood went on to a measure of success in the Construction business building art deco cottages, apartments and mansions on Palm Island. 


Pretty amazing when you think on Ben's life.
Many of the homes he built on the water have probably been torn down.
New White Spec houses like my son studying architecture loves.
Out with the old, in with the new.

My mother remembers sitting at a house site waiting for buyers.
It was at the end of Palm island but not far from the Latin Quarter.
Not far from where Meir Lanksy had a home.

From Chernigov to Miami. 
https://www.youtube.com/embed/ZsAZjI-hORY" 

So it seems my mother was right about the Seidenberg connection. It also seems she was right about the Chabad connection. She was wrong on one thing. When my Grandmother told her she lived in Strawberry Mansion she thought it was ... a mansion. Perhaps my mother thought it was a pink mansion? Strawberry Mansion was indeed a neighborhood that is now a Historic District. It's link to Jewish Immigrants goes back and you can read about it here below. It was a very nice neighborhood where Mary's sister Jenny lived. But Grandma preferred Florida... 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strawberry_Mansion,_Philadelphia



Sometimes I can feel my mother annoyed at me and saying "Come on Bracha, find out where my Grandparents were born. I left you all those notes from my research. Now you can look on your computer you love so much and find out that information for me!!" It's really not so easy with Jewish Genealogy. But recently I realized that rather than believing most of the family was lost in the Holocaust or a Pogrom I realized if Sarah Beila moved deeper into Russia during WW1 it's likely the Chitrik's I find online from Russia are probably related very distantly. During the early days of the Soviet Regime religion was not favored and Jews were put in jail for doing simple traditions. A refusal to put your children into the government school brought about imprisonment. And there more than here in America there was much assimilation. Maybe there's a distant communist who was from the family or a poet or an artist or someone wandering around a Chabad Camp in Chernigov as I write this? Who knows?

It seems no matter how far Jews wander they often but not always end up back home eventually. Life is strange, there is a both a beauty and a mystery in Jewish Genealogy. A frustration at the difficulties and at the same time a wonder in how branches became reconnected again after a few generations of roaming far from home. 

The Day Camp now operating opening in Chernigov looks much like the Day Camps my kids went to in Florida. Go figure. Who knows...

https://www.youtube.com/embed/oNuoVG0iAMU"

Thanks for reading this long post. I wrote it more for myself than anyone else. I wrote it to get better in touch with my Grandfather Ben who I never met in person. I did often feel his presence in the old apartment I grew up in that he had built. Rather than a gray, scary ghost like presence he now seems a warm man who traveled far, loved his family and worked hard to make their life in Florida beautiful. And, I'm guessing he gave my Grandmother a ring as a present in this picture as it was not her style to show off her jewelry, but she is obviously showing off her ring very proudly.


Maybe it was the watch she was showing off :)
I loved her. She was awesome.
We lived with her until I was 7.
Grandpa Ben obviously loved her too!

Thanks for reading.

Grandpa Ben's granddaughter.

Ps For Grandma who was a pianist to work at the Wannamaker store was big.
They had the organ, it was world famous.
And those staircases she walked up and down to show off her boots ;)

https://www.youtube.com/embed/1woqzm30O6c

Besos Bobbi

Ps An article on the search for my Great Grandmother.
http://www.jgsgp.org/Documents/Chronicles_Vol_32-1_Spring_2015.pdf

Somewhere in there is a well edited article.
I'm convinced the key to finding that info on my mother's Grandparents..
....will end in Philadelphia.
As both sides of her family tree both moved there when escaping Russia.
Maternal side and Paternal side.
All road seem to go through Philly.

Sorry for any typos. 
A bit under the weather today but promised to focus on Ben.
As it is his Yarzeit today.


Some links:

https://www.geni.com/people/Rabbi-Dovber-Shneuri-The-Mitteler-Rebbe/6000000001481205017

http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/112320/jewish/Rabbi-Dov-Ber-Schneuri.htm

http://www.jewishvirtuallibrary.org/jsource/judaica/ejud_0002_0004_0_04221.html
http://jewua.org/chernigov/

http://jmof.fiu.edu/education/fjhm/fjhmspeech.pdf page 8 and 9 references Tobacco in Quincy, FL.

https://www.floridamemory.com/items/show/262413

https://www.photoblog.com/chossid/2011/08/06/5771-kvarim-trip-nezhin-grave-of-the-mittler-rebbe/ My friend Leah's blog about a trip to the Ohel (grave) of the Mittler Rebbe of Chabad in Nizhyn where my Great Grandmother Sarah Beila was born.

http://wanamakerbuilding.com/

https://www.etsy.com/market/department_store

Maybe one day Starbucks will bring back the Samovar?

http://www.jewishvirtuallibrary.org/jsource/judaica/ejud_0002_0004_0_04221.html







Monday, March 7, 2016

Tale of 2 Grandmothers. Learning About the Grandmother from Plunge, Lithuania Who Grew Up Far From the Grandma From Tampa Florida.



Been a while since I wrote. Life goes on and I have other commitments that need attending to.. I also spend too much time late at night surfing around one last family name wave in hopes of connecting some broken branch to my tree. It's frustrating having Ancestry give you so many cousins that you can't make heads or tails of how they are related to you. Perhaps I'm adopted and I should have my brother do his DNA test...

How can you not know who a third cousin is when you see the names and their family history? And, yes I do believe they are 3rd cousins or 4th and then there's the 2nd cousin who has no tree and refuses to respond to email. Perhaps she's adopted... And yet despite the frustration of not being able to find out for sure what the M. stands for on my Great Grandmother Ida's death certificate there are many victories that I rarely celebrate enough. So this post is about celebrating things I learned about my Grandmother Esther Schwartz who I really knew very little about when I was little and she was visiting from New York.

Note..  as I type this there is that annoying Ancestry commercial with the gal related to George Washington "Holy Smoke!" who can't figure out how this happened so fast. I can... she's not 90% European Jewish most likely. It's just so much easier doing a tree for a friend who's family lived 6 generations in Georgia near the South Carolina border where every first son is named after their father down to the Jr. on the end of their name. The second son is usually given the surname of their mother as a middle name. It's really pretty easy. As a reference librarian in a large public library I routinely helped people named George find their family tree going back to the early 1700s. You'd think some of that karma would come back to me here.... with regard to Great Grandma Ida M. Abrams.

This is the family photo from my parent's wedding.


I always loved this picture.
Especially after my Uncle on the far left Oscar Rappaport died when I was little.
I would stare at it happy they were all together.
In fact the picture made my mother sad as her family was not all together.
Her father Benjamin passed away a few years earlier.
Unlike my aunt on the left's huge wedding in the synagogue....
... my parents had a small ceremony in the Rabbi's house.
She didn't have a long gown like her sister had... 
I thought she looked like a princess.
And my father's parents on the bottom row were all dressed up!
I never saw my Grandma Esther in a fancy dress.
I had only seen Grandpa Herman in a suit once... 
...when he boarded a plane to Israel to see his brother.
I have this one memory of him ....
Grandpa Herman in a brown suit and a hat climbing up the ramp to the plane.
He was flying to Israel... it seemed so big, so important.
I mean he put on his dress suit for the trip!


Pictures taken with my Grandparents Esther and Herman Schwartz.
The other lady was my Aunt Ida, Grandma's sister who often lived with them.

Most Miami kids have pictures like this especially if they are Jewish.
Relatives from New York came and stayed in the winter.
Sometimes they retired here if you were lucky as mine did.
You went to South Beach and took pictures.
The wall is there today. 
I often go to the Starbucks, sip coffee and remember... 


 My mother's family were old time Southern Jews who during wars and malaria outbreaks went up north to Philly. In the blistering hot summers of Key West and Tampa you went to visit relatives "up north" which basically meant anywhere that you didn't have to worry about malaria. My Grandma Mary sang me old minstrel lullabies of Mammy telling her little crying babe about how he needed to stay in his own backyard and she would remind me that it pertained to Jews too! To be fair, Grandma Mary's brother's tobacco fields were burned down by the KKK. She knew where her yard was though she was very stylish and thoroughly modern. While living up north in Atlantic City where they had a cigar store on the boardwalk that sold her brother's "Made in Tampa" cigars she went and bobbed her hair to look like a flapper. Her husband from Russia cried for days that she cut her long, beautiful curls. Grandma said it was important to be modern and that bob looked real pretty on her. It's not like it wasn't going to grow back, yet looking at old pictures it's obvious Grandma Mary never grew it long again. 

We lived with Grandma Mary or next door to her most of my young life. Her husband Ben died in 1949 and she remained a widow the rest of her years. Ben died before I was born so he is someone I am really only learning about now as I do family research. I always heard stories about him owning a construction company and he did build their house but little kids tune stories about about people they don't really know. And, I really didn't know Grandpa Ben. But this is about Grandma Mary and my other Grandmother Esther. It is in fact a tale of two grandmas very different and yet perhaps not so different at all.

My mother always pointed out my father was first generation American and his father was born in Hungary so that made him 50% Hungarian. She spoke more about my Grandfather Herman who she liked than she did about Grandma Esther who she obviously had some issues with as most daughter-in-laws do I suppose.  I'm 25% Hungarian if you extrapolate the math. As both of Herman's parents were it seems distant cousins with the last name Weiss... my Hungarian heart shaped face is thanks to that double dose of Weiss genes from Hungary. Note Weiss became Schwartz... don't you love looking for lost relatives who are European Jews....again another story for a another day.

I didn't know my father's parents as well growing up in Miami. When I was five we took the train to New York to visit them in their apartment in the Bronx. Sadly I remember the ride in the taxi more than I do time spent with them; I was very small and lucky to remember anything at all. They would come down almost every winter to stay on Miami Beach in various apartments that all looked the same not far from Ocean Drive. On Sundays we would drive to Miami Beach and we'd sit inside the small little apartment that had odd smells such as moth balls and what was most likely shmaltz frying somewhere in the large apartment building. Every building smelled the same until their last apartment where they moved to when they retired.


I always feel guilty looking back. I liked seeing them but I hated staying so long. Sometimes we'd go take a walk to Ocean Drive or Flamingo Park. Usually we sat, my father got restless and went out for a walk and my Grandfather would go play chess with the men outside in front of their building and I'd be stuck inside with my mother and my grandmother who obviously were not best friends. I'd stare at the window when my father would return and we could leave. My parents would then fight the whole way back to Miami as my mother would complain he ran off and left her there. Why I don't know and to be honest my father never had much sitz fleish as they say in Yiddish, meaning he was restless and couldn't sit still. When my brothers were born when I was 10 and 12 I was sort of saved by the flurry of activity they would bring to the scene. My grandmother would give them a top to spin and smile watching them. Time moved faster then. Sometimes they would got to LA when their daughter lived but usually they came to Miami. Eventually they got an apartment on 10th Street just off of Washington Avenue and thanks to the Art Deco Historic District ...the place looks much the same as it did back then.

It wasn't just about the family dynamics. They sometimes made me nervous.
It's hard to explain why looking back I feel guilty I knew so little about them.
It's sort of your typical little girl in Miami goes to Miami Beach to see the Grandparents.
They'd come down from New York every winter for a bit and visit.
We'd have to drive to Miami Beach.. sit in their small little apartment....
....they spoke with an accent I was not familiar with as my other Grandma spoke Southern.
I'd see my Grandma with all her friends... they all looked the same.
They all smelled the same to a little girl. Dressed the same.
As I got older I wondered where on Washington Avenue they bought those frocks.
I sound mean. I don't mean to be mean.
I'm trying to be honest.
They seemed so old world from another place.
I'm being honest here. Bear with me..

Recently I was given a few pictures of her when she was young.
Grandma Esther's hair looks sort of blonde here. Goldish perhaps?


She was never dressed up in Miami. Never wore make up.
My Grandma Mary was always going to get her hair done.
Grandma Mary said if she didn't get her hair done she'd look like Maggie Scratch.
I wasn't sure who Maggie Scratch was but I was happy she had her hair done.
It didn't sound good.


Above is a picture of Grandma Mary. 
On rare occasions even Grandma Mary wore flowered dresses.

I suppose it never occurred to me those were Grandma Esther Florida clothes.
She lived in the Bronx. Below she stands to the right of my Grandfather.
I'm pretty sure that was an engagement party or maybe a wedding.
Their daughter was marrying the lady on the left's son.
It has that proud celebratory feel to it.


I don't think I ever saw Grandma Esther so dressed up in person.
I loved her but she seemed rougher around the edges than Grandma Mary.
Or maybe because Grandma Mary lived next door she seemed more real.

Perhaps the one thing this trek through shtetl names has taught me was how little I knew.

The picture below is of my Grandma Mary at her my wedding.
Mary Abrams Rick.



Grandma Esther wore brightly flowered frocks and spoke with an old world accent. Grandma Esther was nice. I loved her. But she did seem foreign in ways. I knew little about her other than she grew up in the city in Europe somewhere and my grandpa grew up in the country in Hungary. I knew that because my Grandpa Herman complained she didn't wear good shoes and how important good shoes were. I'd look down at my Grandma Esther's worn plastic looking summer sandals and move a bit further away from Grandpa Herman. It bugged me he said that though I understood what he meant, I suddenly liked her not very stylish sandals and felt strangely protective of her. She wasn't much older than I am now in retrospect but she seemed much older. Grandma Mary in contrast wore white pumps from a shoe store in Coral Gables that carried her AAA small size show with the medium heel.

Grandma Esther usually stood in the kitchen cooking some sort of snack or dinner for my Grandfather who played chess often outside in front of the apartment building in the winter sunshine. The kitchen always smelled of aromas I was not familiar with and though she was very loving the conversation was sort of stilted. I'd watch her move about and after a while I felt sort of claustrophobic. The smell of moth balls always takes me back to Miami Beach in the 1960s as a little girl. We didn't use moth balls in Miami growing up and the old people from New York who vacationed there. Everyone smelled of moth balls when they would hug you. Of course being a Miami girl I didn't understand nothing about moth balls or seasons or clothes that were stored away for the trip to Florida.



Often seer sucker jackets over linen skirts. Hard to explain.
And no I have no pictures but you get the idea.


My Grandma Mary wore pale pink suits with various types of texture always accented by a pin or handkerchief in her pocket showing just so. She wore white cotton lace shirts with a ribbon around her hair sometimes. She had pictures of herself as a young girl dressed in a Southern Plantation sort of gown and a purple velvet ribbon around her neck with a cameo from when she played the piano for the Governor of Florida in Tallahassee. The picture was lost in a closet that had a leak but is engraved in my memory. I loved to hear Grandma Esther tell how she played the piano and how they threw roses onto the stage after her performance. Grandma Mary was a great story teller.

I ordered my Grandparent's marriage certificate from New York which by the way does not arrive in a New York minute. Takes weeks and weeks every time you order anything from New York. I had heard my Aunt Ida say they were litvaks and she pointed out her father was a misnagid when my family became involved with Chabad. Misnaged for this purpose here if you don't already know means... Not Chassidic. Her father was orthodox, Aunt Ida kept Shabbos but she didn't talk a blue streak like my Grandma Mary. She lost two husbands, a baby at the end of a long pregnancy and never had children. My father was the closest thing she had a to a child and she was a second mother to him most of his life. She was a sweet lady, not larger than life in fact very small with a ready smile especially if we brought one of the babies to see her after I was married.


This was my "WOW" moment in that I finally had a town to search.
Everyone says to use Jewish Gen but it's not helpful without names.
It helps to have the town's name as well as actual first and last names. 

Again irony.
Grandma Esther's father Bentzion went by Benjamin as well.
Grandma Mary's father Behr went by Benjamin as well.
I guess Benjamin sounds like a good American name.
No.. I'm not related to Benjamin Franklin ... not that I know of..
And no I am not related to George Washington that I know of...
..though I learned of several people I am related to of note.

So after searching endlessly for information on the ever elusive Grandparents of Grandma Mary I have found many things out about the parents of Grandma Esther Schwartz. And as time goes by and I speak to a few older cousins I have learned much more about Grandma Esther than I ever learned watching her cook some sort of small, smelly fish I think she called "smelts" that tasted way better than they smelled. I think she breaded them and fried them as she did most of the things she cooked. 


The papers say that her father is Benjamin Neftalin.
His hebrew name was Benzion and he went by the name Bensel often.
Esther's mother was Celia Perretz on the marriage license.
In town records she was listed as Tsipe Peres. 
Tsipe or Tzippy is a nickname for Tziporah.


Plunge and Telze are a half hour drive.
5 to 7 hours to walk.
Google doesn't tell me how long it would take a horse and wagon...

So.... Grandma Esther's parents were Bentzion Naftolin from Telsz but he lived in Plumyan also known as Plunge Lithuania. His wife Tsipe Peres short for Cipora also known as Celia was from Plunge. Another problem with Jewish genealogy is every Great Grandparent seems to have 5 names. Yehuda Leib went by Leo or Judah or Leible or Lebi depending on which family tree someone gives you. Coming to America each record for even the same name is spelled differently. It's not like John or Mike Smith it gets complicated. Some siblings spelled it Naftolin and others Neftolin and others spelled it both ways on different documents. Then I speak to a distant cousin who says "it was always spelled with an E or we aren't related" to which I think "right" as Esther's sister Ida spelled Naftolin differently on the numerous Trees in Israel she bought in memory of her mother, father and younger brother.


I've found records on Jewish Gen for Plunge for Grandma Esther's birth.
It shows September 9th, 1895 on her birth record here.
I was always told she was born in July. Why I don't know.
I don't know why no one seemed to know when she was born.
I knew Grandma Mary's was February 7th before I knew my own.
It always bothered me my father didn't know when she was born.
Seems he was wrong or the record is wrong as that is hers.
Perhaps she didn't know? 
Another record shows her birthday as July 2nd.
So many mysteries.
That is her..she was a year younger than her twin sisters Ida and Bessie.
The initial B. in my father's name was for her brother Ber.


Note it says of lung disease.
Seeing as I have had asthma and bronchitis problems most of my life... 
I can tell we might be related and I'm not adopted after all...

My great grandmother Tsipe died in 1909 when Grandma Esther was 14. Her father moved to Lodz taking the children with him marrying another woman whose name I have not learned. As his daughter grew older the stepmother suggested he send them to America where they could have a better life. Whether she wanted to get rid of teenage stepdaughters who looked like the first wife or truly thought they would do better... I don't really care I'm happy Grandma Esther made it to America. Most of her European relatives perished in the Holocaust along with the other Neftalins and Peres family members who did not leave before World War 2. And, many did leave and are scattered across Minnesota, Scotland, England, South Africa and even here in North Carolina. 

Ironically I always felt badly that my Grandma Mary lost her mother Ida in Tampa when she was a little girl. Grandma Mary would talk lovingly of her mother and then her eyes would tear up and she'd tell me she couldn't talk anymore. She told me she was a little girl when her mother died. Seems Grandma Mary was a good story teller including telling us all she was born in 1900 when in fact she was born in 1893 (sorry Grandma you always said I should tell the truth) and she was 17 years old when her mother died in 1915. When Esther was 17 years old she was on a ship bound for America. I found the record online and Grandma Esther was right, she told the truth. She was sent second class (not steerage) on a big ship that looked like a bit like the Titanic. It was in fact named Kaiser Wilhem Der Grosse.



Is that a big, beautiful ship or what?

Over time I have learned many things about the Naftalin family...spell it anyway you want!

They were somewhere between very comfortable to well to do merchants. Many of their children not only attended college but often studied political science. Grandma Esther's cousin once or twice removed was the Mayor of Minneapolis Arthur Naftalin, known as well for being one of Hupert Humphrey's closest friends. 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arthur_Naftalin
http://www.nytimes.com/2005/05/19/us/arthur-naftalin-87-professor-and-former-minneapolis-mayor-dies.html?_r=0

Find A Grave shows him but is unsure where he is buried.


What amazes me is I spent 2 summers of my life in St. Paul/Minneapolis.
Who knew Grandma Esther's cousin lived there.... 

What also amazes me is I have a degree in International Relations.
I studied Political Science. It seems to run in her family.

I learned about him from a relative in England who is an attorney.
His son studied politics. 
Another Naftolin was the attorney Henryk Naftalin who kept records in the Lodz Ghetto.


They were very cutting edge it seems when it came to politics and history.

I have learned much about Grandma Esther who I always associate with the scent of lilacs as she wore lilac perfume often ... well when not slowly frying smelts. 

Recipe for Fried Smelts... though am pretty sure Grandma Esther used Matzah Meal.
http://ifood.tv/american/400705-pan-fried-cornmeal-coated-maine-smelts
Or possibly even bread crumbs to use up as that was how people did things back then.

I also found records of her father's death shown below.
The story slowly comes together in bits and pieces.


This is a picture of Bentzion taken in New York.
A. Smith photographer on Madison Avenue.
Maybe he came to America for Esther's wedding?



Each record is another piece of the puzzle.
It tells the story behind the pictures.
I find them everywhere.
Ancestry.
Mormon Site.
Jewish Gen.

My father was said to look like his mother.
I suppose it's true especially noticeable as he grew older.
Especially after knowing this unnamed picture was his father.
Esther Bas Bentzion

Oh that's the last set of names we Jews have...
Esther daughter of Bentzion 
Bentzion son of Mendel.
The records from Plunge confirmed that Esther's father was Shmuel.
She named my father Shmuel Ber after her father and her brother.

Pieces of information coming together.

My older cousin knew my Grandmother when she was younger. She told me that she would go to art galleries to look at art. My Grandma Esther had a will made for her and she pushed her sister Ida to have one made up as well. I heard a family story that she went to court with a woman whose husband had been abusive as a witness as she said men can't treat women that way especially in America. I've looked at pictures from this side of 50 and realize she did sometimes dress up and wear make up and was quite pretty in ways. And sometimes she followed her heart in things she was interested in such as art. She traveled to a country she didn't know with only a married sister Bessie Samek (Ida's twin) living here in Passaic, New Jersey. She was kind. When I was little and had a stye in my eye she took her wedding band and made it hot over a steam pot and rested it against my little eye lid to make it feel better and it did feel better. It was one of those rare endearing moments I had alone with her during one of those family Sunday visits. She was a nice lady. I always knew that but now I know more about her than I did when I was 6 hoping that if I was a good girl at my grandparents my parents would stop and buy me a promised Black and White cookie from the bakery on Washington Avenue


Herman and Esther Schwartz.
His father changed his name from Weiss to Schwartz.

So while I always knew there was something special about my Grandma Mary..... I know much more about my Grandma Esther from the Bronx who really was from Lithuania and spent a good part of her childhood in Kovno in Poland. It seems the more I research my Grandmother Esther I find references to the names of people in my Grandmother Mary's family. Not perfect matches but a lot of people in the Morris family in American with names in variations of that name in Plunge and Vilna and a place near Kovno. So ironically they may have more in common than anyone ever thought as it's possible that one of Grandma Mary's family came originally from the same area. 


When I was little Grandma Esther had half painted pictures everywhere, hidden away on top of book shelves. My mother who studied art and music said they were "paint by the numbers" pictures. Seems mother was wrong, whether she knew better or just assumed is hard to say. After my mother died I inherited things that had been stored away in closets since my father died. My mother, a character a bit out of Tennessee Williams, never wanted anyone touching dead people's things. Grandma Esther painted many pictures over and over until she got one she liked just right and then she'd frame it. 

Now I know why the Highwaymen pictures look so similar.
Grandma Esther painted the same type of pictures that were popular then.
Esther did love Florida. So do I.
I always planted pink hibiscus in front of the house in Miami.

Esther loved Miami Beach. So do I.

And a picture she painted sits on the wall in my house in North Carolina.
I'm not sure if it's a picture of where she lived as a girl...
Or or the California coastline when she visited...
Or maybe up in the mountains where they'd go to vacation sometimes.

Sometimes you don't have to know.
You just have to enjoy it and smile.


I smile because somehow because I have learned so much more... 
... I have come to know her more better as we say Down South.

If you want to take a trip to Kovno or a town nearby.
It's a long flight, cost a lot of money.
But it's a shorter trip than it was for a 17 year old girl on a big ship in 1912.


Glad she left then... before World War I stopped others from leaving.

Still trying to figure out where Ida M. and Wolfe Abrams came from before England.

Life goes on as a good friend says.

Good luck in your searches.
Remember to celebrate your victories.